Stress can significantly affect a person’s health by attacking the immune system. It is difficult to tell the capacity of a person to handle stress until the body reacts. Life is supposed to be hard, and it is a matter of changing how we view things and how we treat difficulties.
Single parents have a higher chance of acquiring medical problems caused by stress. They have a lot on their plates that are often too overwhelming, and constant pressure leads to medical health conditions such as heart problems and cancer.
My name is Lisa, and I am a single parent of four adorable kids. Their father left us two years ago. I suppose he couldn’t take the pressure anymore. We were both minimum wagers, and the financial obligations and parental responsibilities like bringing the kids to school were too much. We would often argue who’s going to pay what, and who’s going to pick who.
I still remember the day he left. We were both quiet, and I was too exhausted to ask for a reason, and I knew how hard it was. I wanted to scream at him, but I thought there was no use. I just felt alone and angry. He was such a coward! He knew we were struggling, and that was the two of us. How much more if I had to face it all alone?
I didn’t have a choice. The world wouldn’t stop spinning just because I had troubles. It’s not going to wait for me to get ready, so I had to continue. It was stressful! I was always sad and irritable. My kids would hear me yell in the morning when they wake up and at night right before they go to sleep.
Several months after, I felt like a different person, and I felt weak. I started to feel discomfort in my back and constant headaches. There were instances when I would have on and off fever, and one time I got hospitalized because of over-fatigue. I understand Gretchen Flores, MA LPC LCPC‘s emphasis. “A limit is an invisible line that exists between emotional, physical, and psychological well being and becoming anxious, irritable and stressed.” That’s what I am getting.
I had to see a doctor, and there wasn’t any concrete diagnosis. My doctor said it could be from too much stress, and that I should address it before it affects my health severely. He recommended me to undergo therapy to help me manage stress. It made me realized Sonja Seglin, LCPC statement; “Stress can seem omnipresent. Between working, socializing, and taking care of the home, it sometimes seems we don’t have a minute to ourselves, let alone enough time to really take care of our bodies and minds.”
I didn’t know if I have the time to go to a therapist as I couldn’t even have time for my kids anymore. I tried online therapy with BetterHelp because it is more convenient for me, and although I couldn’t afford to have a day off, I requested to have a leave for three days. I need to sort out my issues and catch up on my therapy and my life. I knew I had to decide. If I am the only parent they have, all the more reason that I have to take care of my health.
Single parents are unbelievably incredible especially if they manage to take good care of themselves and be healthy. Being a single parent means twice the responsibilities not only to your kids but to yourself. It is a matter of perspective which online therapy aims to efficiently help. According to Sena Moran, LMHC, “Online therapy is also known as teletherapy, online counseling, distance therapy, internet therapy, e-therapy, telehealth, telebehavioral health, email therapy, text therapy, phone counseling.”