The moment your eyes sprung, your brain immediately activates itself into awareness and sensibility that it starts to analyze multitudes of things – starting from yourself and expanding its horizons to the outside world. Your brain has reboots for the night, and as you wake up, it functions for continuity, to let you pick up where you have left off.
“When you challenge yourself to learn a new skill, you are building your intellectual health. People who pay attention to their intellectual wellness often find that they have better concentration, improved memory, and better critical thinking skills.” Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC said. That’s how beautiful the mind works. It is a massive chunk of thinking organ that is created to deal with one decision after the other in a span of seconds. The brain can process at least 35,000 resolutions in a day.
At this very moment, life presents numerous challenges for everyone’s decision-making skills. While some of these decisions are said to be “a breeze,” there are those encounters that set you off; those that wrack your brains out to the point of breakdown.
Pitfalls in making decisions
There is a way to lessen the burden of stress by turning decision-making into less of a struggle. What are the things you should watch out? If ever you encounter a problematic decision-making predicament in your life, what are the strategies to manage them?
Problem #1: Distorted prioritizing
Delegating tremendous significance on everything that you do is like asking your frontal lobe to process everything all at once. When you force yourself into doing tasks just to please or satisfy people around you like your boss or workmates, your mind goes into overdrive to the point of exhaustion. You, wanting to finish all your work at once, will impair your mind’s ability to prioritize. Listen to Marc Romano, PsyD advise. “Focus on yourself and your own happiness and do not compare yourself to others.”
Problem #2: Grounded on wretchedness
If you dig deep into the minds of people who are stuck in making either an easy or a difficult decision, you’ll find out that the primary source of the person’s stress is not how to make a decision. Pressure comes from various underlying, unresolved, conflicting issues that need utmost attention.Only to find out that it is in making that final determination that the person emerges from the ashes and is finally relieved. Once the brain is in a brawl, it quickly becomes overwhelmed, making it vulnerable to be thrown into the pit.
Problem #3: Nit-picker mode activated
In the process of making all things right, there will come the point that you’ll just cry out, “Oh god, I’ve made a horrible, horrible mess of everything!” Being a perfectionist is an advantage for it increases the quality of work; however, being a faultfinder in every aspect of your life is no longer healthy and productive. Sometimes, there is no one right way or answer to every situation. On the other hand, decisions are mostly messy and involve dissension and not having the best solution is perfectly fine. After all, we do not have all the answers to all of life’s questions.
Troubleshooting methods include:
- Self-care with help from friends.
- Refuel your brain.
- Assess the purpose and value of your choices then base your priorities on them.
- Review past circumstances that you’ve conquered and figure out how you were able to surpass them and what works best for your current situation.
- Determine if your inner critic has intensified and calm it down.
- Tell yourself that it’s okay if you don’t acquire favorable outcomes.
- Find the courage to do what is necessary and stop second-guessing yourself.
Excavate yourself from the puddle
Once you finally see yourself stuck in a rut, this is the point where the brain is already short-circuiting, paralyzed from analyzing way too much data and forming solutions for every one of them. Because of our daily encounters with one situation after the other, our brain becomes slower and less dependable regarding choosing the good from the bad, resulting in stress and exhaustion.
By practicing these troubleshooting methods and carrying them around wherever you go, no matter how stressful the situation is, you will be sure to recover from the rut and find the most appropriate way to deal with it. “Use your strengths of critical thinking and hope to look at any negative situation in a fresh way. You might tap into hope to see how there are benefits to the stressor. ” Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. advises.