Being surrounded by good people is essential to our wellbeing. It determines our peace and harmony which are vital to a happy life. Choosing the right neighborhood is critical for gaining an abundant and fruitful relationship within the community.
They say that a lousy neighbor could mean life in hell because it makes you uncomfortable in your territory. You can’t just go outside without thinking about the people next door. Sometimes, you can be a prisoner in your own home just because you are trying to avoid seeing your neighbor.
As a part of the neighborhood, you have a responsibility to try and reach out to the people around you. There may be challenging people, especially the elderly, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to do anything. You can at least make an effort to be a good neighbor.
Here Are Some Simple Tips On How You Can Be A Positive Contributor To Your Neighborhood:
- Initiate A Conversation
Whenever you bump into them in your front yard, initiate a conversation. Start by saying a simple “Hi” or “Good morning.” It will give them a hint that you want to make a connection. Sometimes, new neighbors are just waiting for you to reach out. They may be hesitating to come up to you first because they may think you don’t want to be disturbed.
If by all means you tried several times to converse with them and they don’t seem to like it or are throwing apparent signs that they are not interested in making friends with you, you can remain civil and still greet them “Hello, how are you? Just show them you wish them well. According to Jennifer L. Taitz, PsyD “I’m pretty blown away by the idea of Loving-Kindness Meditation. Meaning, instead of drowning in sadness, purposefully spending a few minutes wishing people well (from you to a mentor to a stranger to a person you know struggling) can actually lead to productive actions and increase your joy.”
- Practice Generosity And Hospitality
Housewarming gifts are not a thing of the past. Make your new neighbors feel welcome by bringing them gifts like:
- Baked treats
- Bottle of wine
- Your specialty
If your new neighbor feels that they are welcome in the neighborhood, they are encouraged to bring out positive energy. It will create the start of a kind and meaningful relationship between people who are practically sharing the same territory. Always help out neighbors during difficulties. It doesn’t mean you have to solve their problems, but you can make them feel that they are not alone. “By building a list of people that you trust, with whom you can talk to in times of need, you allow yourself a strong sense of not being alone.” David Klow, a licensed therapist explains.
- Be Patient And Considerate
A neighborhood is a place where a group of people from different families reside. We all have different preferences, points of view, and capabilities. Some of our neighbors may be older and dislike loud noises and pets running around their front yard. There are times when they may go to you complaining about it. Be patient and considerate of their feelings.
When you throw a party, make sure not to turn up the music too high or stay up late. Your elder neighbors need to rest early and may be uncomfortable with any disturbances way past their sleeping hours.
- Invite Neighbors To Your Parties
“If you find yourself avoiding parties, work gatherings, or even your own friends and family, there may be a fear of judgment or underlying feelings of inadequacy.” Dr. Marisa Alter, PsyD, a clinical psychologist stated. Commonly, that’s how your neighbors feel. But it shouldn’t have to be like that. When you are throwing a party, send out invitations to your neighbors regardless if they’re coming or not. It is a kind gesture to mean that they are welcome to your family’s gathering. Just imagine how you would feel if your neighbor is having a party and they did not invite you. Wouldn’t you feel bad as well?
- Invite Neighbors For Some Coffee
You would know your neighbor’s schedule in the long run. You would know when the best time is to invite them over for a cup of coffee. You won’t have to do it often, just once or twice a month is enough to let your neighbors know that you acknowledge them, and you want them to be a part of your family too.
- Never Park In Your Neighbor’s Space
It doesn’t matter how comfortable you are with your neighbors. It’s not a pleasant thing to park in their space or at the front of their house except during emergencies, of course. There are instances when you have to use their space, but make sure to ask for their permission first. It’s a way to let them know that you respect them.
- Share Your Recipes
According to Counselor Nicole Lambert, “Cooking helps mental health in that it can be a creative outlet. It’s a way to channel energy, can be used as a distraction, help build mastery in a skill, and a way to express emotions through a different medium.” Yes, not all of us cook, but for sure, all of us eat! Share your recipes with your neighbors and cook with them if it’s convenient for both of you. It’s an excellent way to get to know each other. They say “The way to a woman’s heart is through her stomach.” Well, it applies to your neighbors, too.
Our neighborhood is indeed an extension of our home. The people around us are a part our lives whether we like it or not, and we may not notice it, but they create a significant impact on how we see things and how we plan our day. We have the power to create a stress-free environment for us in our neighborhood. All we have to do is be a good neighbor ourselves.