Perhaps you already know that stress is the number one leading cause of mental health issues. Any field of psychology would agree to that. It makes you weak and vulnerable to certain conditions that are sometimes out of control. In some unfortunate cases, its effects affect your way of living and how you treat others. But there is no doubt you know some of the ways to prevent it from ruining your life. There goes the time you tend to change your eating habits to choosing healthy and nutritious ones. Maybe you also tried exercising due to its overall benefits. Or perhaps you already managed to shift your way of thinking from negative to decisive. But how convinced are you that you are getting the best from those helpful strategies? Well, there are distressing tips that for sure you know useful, but pretty much don’t follow.
Bitching About Things That Don’t Matter (Can’t Learn To Let Go)
According to Marla W. Deibler, PsyD, “When we think a stressor is too great for us to manage, we feel overwhelmed,” Indeed, you want the excitement on things around you. That is why you somehow want to feel involved to whatever it is that goes beyond your interests. However, when you have the habit of always pushing on things that don’t necessarily require your presence and don’t even concern you, then you are just making it hard for yourself. Okay, maybe you feel like there are instances that perhaps connect you with stuff like different family problems, friends’ financial matters, relationship issues with someone close to you, and so on. But it does not mean you need to give a damn about all of it. If it is not harming you or at least not asking for your presence, then let it go.
Don’t Act Like You Know Everything (It’s Okay To Ask Questions)
“We find ourselves yearning for greater depth and meaning in our lives, and a sense of authentic connection, but don’t quite know how to find our way.” Jennifer Bradley, Psy.D., HSPP, Clinical Psychologist expresses. One factor that makes stress grow significantly is the habit of knowing-it-all. Understandably, some things maybe make you more mentally and emotionally intelligent, among others. But of course, there are things you don’t know. There are things that you have not experienced yet in your whole existence. With that, it leaves you clueless same as everybody else. When you concentrate on thinking that you have all the answers to everything, you don’t only lie to others, but also yourself as well. So what if you know nothing about certain things? Will it become a big deal if you tell people you don’t know something? It is okay to ask clarifications when things are a bit blurry and confusing. There is nothing wrong in people that you don’t know anything, so stop stressing yourself over answering questions.
Talk Less And Listen More Often (Be Mindful With Others)
One particular problem that people often encounter is the stress of having a conflict with others. That is because one can be unintentionally selfish. That instead of thinking about other individuals feelings, they begin to lay down theirs. The situation creates a different kind of emotional and mental stress because people appear to be more self-centered. They often disregard listening and showing sympathy towards others because they want the attention all to their selves. So if you find yourself in this particular state, be mindful to consider other people’s feelings and situation. You need to understand that not everything is about you. So instead of talking more, listen and pay close attention to what others are going through.
Raise Awareness On What You Feel (Rather Than Focus On What People Think)
Stress is the result of the unwanted things that continuously hunts your mental state. It leads to different kinds of disorders too. So before you allow it to damage your life, raise the awareness of knowing how you feel and think about yourself. Rather than focus on listening to what people negatively say about you, prove them wrong. Work your way towards the betterment of your emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, and social life. Redefine how you picture yourself in terms of handling complicated situations. Never let people decide for you. Never allow them to ruin your motivation into becoming the person you wished to be. Focus on your skills and capabilities, understand your emotions, keep your mental state safe, and all things will follow. As Melanie McNally, PsyD, LCPC states, “Self-care is what we do for ourselves in order to better manage our stress and maintain a sense of balance. It is an on-going process and something we should be implementing daily rather than waiting for stress to completely overwhelm or overtake us.”
These are the basic things that make you safe from stress. It is understandable that there are times you do not feel like doing some or all of these things. There is also no problem if sometimes you once try it but cannot seem to maintain it. But in case you realize you want to achieve better things in life, start following these distressing tips.